“Oh, Miss Lynda your pupils talk too much. know what they want at every time, they know where different resources are kept in the class and they just go ahead to pick it themselves”

“My son is talkative, he doesn’t take a break from talking, my head hurts from hearing him talk nonstop”

“Do you know my little one picks her outfit for the day all by herself? She does not allow anyone to make that choice for her so any day she comes to class with a tight pair of shoes, she has to wear them throughout the day”

The statements above are a few comments I have received about children I have taught at one point in time😃😃😃 Most times I laugh it off, and when I have the time to go into details I let parents know this is a developmental stage according to Erik Erikson (Autonomy versus Shame/Doubt). At this stage of a child’s development, it’s either you give your child a chance to do things for themselves, express themselves or they grow into young adults with a feeling of inferiority.

I do not believe any child in preschool talks too much because in today’s world, it is becoming increasingly difficult for children to express themselves rather I believe that by encouraging children to express themselves I am building their self-confidence, independence, and creativity. Most times when you walk into my classroom you think we are having a party but somehow when it’s time for tasks, my pupils know and switch into work mode right away. Kids who are not allowed to express themselves grow into people pleasers and evolve into adults with very low self-esteem. This is why as early as possible I allow kids placed under my care to express themselves and feel free around me. As an adult, your role is to guide them in choosing clothes to wear, snacks, the color of crayons, and play equipment they want to go on at the park or during recess by making subtle suggestions.

From peer-to-peer convos I overheard among my 3-4-year-olds, I have come to realize what each child thinks about me; “some think I am beautiful😀😀fat, short, tall, cool” what they expect of me as their teacher, their interests, likes and dislikes. As we are all aware, communication is central to the learning process. A classroom void of the busy hum of children and teachers interaction is lacking and deficient. If you walk into an Early Years class and pupils are seated quietly, hands folded 😳😳, no child is curious about your presence in their class, I beg you to PLEASE TAKE A WALK……..something doesn’t add up.

We all want balanced, well-adjusted children who express themselves without hurting the feelings of others so I would like to point us to the fact that your role as the adult in the room is to serve as a guide in their communication with one another, ensure they use the right words, and communicate respectfully with peers and other adults.

Written by Miss Asinedu Lynda Asikwe


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